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A blog is a forum where the blogger – in this case, me – gets to write about, pontificate on, express opinion, generally bullshit, and tell whatever stories she wants. This is my story of how I beat the bitch called “post-partum depression.”
My son was born at 30 weeks’ gestation. He weighed in at 2 lbs., 1 oz. He was delivered by C-section because I suffered a really severe case of HELLP syndrome. He suffered from what the doctors said was “intrauterine growth retardation” because the placenta was only functioning at 50% capacity. It was literally a case of C-section now or both of us would not have survived another week.
Fast forward about a month. I had been discharged from the hospital but my son remained in the Neonatal Intensive Care Unit (NICU.) I was struggling with the stress of not being able to bring him home with me as well as the normal stress that goes with recuperating from a near-fatal illness.
I was having trouble keeping my composure. By that, I mean I cried almost constantly. Every time I visited my son, as soon as I saw him, I started crying. I cried every night when I tried to sleep. When I got up in the mornings, if I looked out the window and saw a squirrel, I cried.
I talked to my doctor about this and he put me on an antidepressant. Things got better, in that I didn’t cry all the time. But I also felt that I was about 2 seconds behind the rest of the world. It was like everything “registered” in my brain a second or two after everyone else “got it.” Sometimes I felt like I couldn’t tell if I was awake or asleep. Well, it didn’t take long for me to get tired of that crap. I stopped the antidepressants. I’m a strong person; I could handle this on my own. Suck it up and move on…that’s what the women in my family do.
My son came home from the NICU at last, 2 ½ months after he was born. He was off of oxygen, eating well, gaining weight like a little pig, and just the jolliest little bundle you could ever hope to meet! None of the horror stories I was told about or read about came true: no mental retardation, no physical deformities, no cerebral palsy, no digestive issues, no problems at all. I felt truly blessed.
When my son was about 6 months old, I was sitting in my living room one morning watching the morning news. He was playing on the floor at my feet. I was finishing up my morning coffee and feeling just fine.
All of a sudden, out of nowhere, my mind filled with a mental image so real, so vivid, much more realistic than any dream I’d ever experienced. What I saw in my mind’s eye was what I would look like, from my son’s point of view, if I were holding him underwater. I could feel the coolness of the water, could hear the sound of bubbles rising from his mouth and nose, could see the bubbles rising to the surface.
It was so damn real! It only lasted a second but that was enough. It scared the fucking shit out of me!
I knew that what I had just experienced was not normal. I picked up my phone and called my mother (she lived ¼ mile up the road from me.) I told her to come immediately, that I needed her. She was there in an instant. I told her what I had experienced and asked her to take my son home with her. I knew I didn’t need to be around him until I saw my doctor. Together we gathered up the things he would need for a stay of several days if needed at Maw-Maw’s. My mother took my son home with her and I called my doctor.
Fast forward to two weeks past that. My doctor started me on antidepressant and made it clear that I needed to make certain there was someone with me when I was around my child for the next two weeks. My son and I stayed at my mother’s for three weeks, just to be on the safe side. I took the medication religiously and had no other episodes of “visions” or whatever you want to call it.
Fast forward now to today. My young man is almost grown, 6 feet tall, and making his mother proud of the man he is and the man he’s becoming. I remain on antidepressants and have had no recurrence of the problem I experienced all those years ago.
Thank God! I would not wish such an experience on my worst enemy; it was that horrendous.
That, my friends, is post-partum depression (bordering on post-partum psychosis.) It ain’t pretty and it can be dangerous, to the point of being lethal to your children if it goes untreated. We’ve all heard the stories and seen the reports on the news.
I had enough of my wits about me to realize something was seriously wrong. Some women aren’t so lucky. That’s why I think it is important for everyone in the family to be trained in what to look for before a woman has a child. There are signs and they should not be ignored. But they won’t be recognized if we don’t educate ourselves to the problem.
Take care out there, sisters. Post-partum depression is a bitch, but it’s a manageable bitch.